So this is the last week!
I'm being induced on Thursday (If I make it that long)
Everything is ready at home..
I guess I'm ready too?
Is anyone truly read though?
I'd love to think about all these things in detail, and spend time working on myself, mentally preparing for the aspect of motherhood, but I can't. I can't, because I have to worry about everyone else. Without going into too much detail, there's already a mess with our visiting "rules" while in the hospital. It's the wedding all over again - we make a few simple requests, and others take offense to those requests for no other reason than that they are selfishly looking out for what they want, and in this case it's wanting to see the baby. Babies are exciting, and new babies are just wonderful to take pics of, take selfies with, and post about on social media. It's a brand new person, with tiny clothes that are adorable, and weird little noises that melt your heart - I get that. What I need people to get though is that I am a first time mom, and I don't know what I'm doing. I'm scared. Scared of labor, scared of the pains, scared of the gore, scared of how my body will react during and after, scared of this new baby I'll be responsible for, scared of literally everything! It's brand new, and dammit.. I need a moment to myself after doing this enormous life changing thing, and I would hope and expect people to understand that... but noooooooooooo. I'm 4 days away, and there's already drama and misunderstandings. I don't think our rules are unreasonable...
#1. The only people allowed in the room during the birth are the doctors, my husband, and my mom if she decides to stay in there (it's undecided).
#2. No visitors until the day after he is born to give us both a chance to settle after this major life event.
#3. No minors (this is a hospital rule, not one we came up with originally)
#4. If you're sick, stay home. (for obvious reasons)
#5. Don't bring your kids if they are sick or just getting over something.
#6. Call before you come by.
#7. Come at the time you say you're going to come.
#8. Don't stay all day long (unless otherwise noted lol!)
#9. Don't expect me to wear real pants or entertain you.
#10. Control your children if they visit - as in, keep the rough housing, screaming, and playing to a minimum around the new fragile baby that's likely sleeping.
#11. Follow my sign, and come in without knocking or ringing the door bell (it keeps the dogs quiet if they are inside.) This is also why I prefer you plan ahead to visit.
#12. Please understand that Richard has to go back to work immediately, and doesn't get paternity leave - he's more important than you. If he needs something or wants time alone with his son, then that's just the way it is.
#13. Most of these rules don't apply to grandparents.
I think this is implied as well, but we also don't need people there while I'm laboring to hang out or talk to. Every one is different, I don't want company while I'm sick or in pain. I don't want to be bothered or discuss world affairs. I don't want people awkwardly on their phones or tablets, while I'm reasoning with my lady parts to shoot forth this love goblin. I don't want people discussing the National Championship while I'm laying there in agonizing pain. I don't want people laughing and cutting up, or make witty banter about child birth as I'm going through it. What I need is my husband, and his support and my mom, and her knowledge. Other than that, everyone can just hang back while we do the work.
I don't think any of this is unreasonable..
Then again, I don't care.
If I can be selfish at any point in life, it's this moment.
I don't get another selfish moment to enjoy after having a baby!
So what if people are pissed off?
Like my mom says...
Like my mom says...
better to be pissed off, than pissed on.