No rational conversation could be had about this on Facebook
... so I'll talk about my feelings here.
You may have seen stories about how moms are "furious" about the above picture of a stroller advertisement featuring Ymre Stiekema in a bikini jogging with her two year old. I think the media uses the wrong word; I think annoyed is more appropiate. It's ads like these that add to the ever growing pressure to have this insane looking body post-birth. Celebrities are always showing off their post-baby body, and we look on in amazement - how can we be just like them? It also gives first time moms a bit of a false idea as to what her body will look like after pregnancy - it doesn't just stap back like that, and when it appears to on a celeb... well... there's a reason.
Ymre Stiekema for instance is paid to look like this. Being a model she has catered meals, a personal trainer, personal chefs, money for surgery (not saying she had any!), access to a gym, a nanny, and all the time in the world to work on her body since that is her job. She is contractually obligated to look like that, while most moms are not. Some moms work full time, and care for their children... Spare time is spent getting an hour or two of sleep, and the other bit is spent taking care of the home. Going to the gym, or heck! Caring for oneself is second to everything else that revolves around caring for the family. Some moms are lucky to sit down to a hot meal, much less having the time to prepare (and pay for) free range chicken breast and organic kale.
I'm not saying it's impossible, nor am I jealous of the above body type. In fact, I question anyone who would want to shoot for that, since Ymre Stiekema is 5'10 and 120 lbs - that is underweight. Shooting for a goal that is below a normal weight is not unrealistic, it's just unhealthy. Furthermore, if you are a breastfeeding mom, it's not preferable to starve yourself if you plan to continue providing nutrients to your baby. Most of us have no reason to shoot for a body weight below what is healthy, so why would anyone want to? Why can't folks workout, eat well, and be comfortable in their own skin?
People immediately point to, "well fat women are in running ads, and they are praised!" But you have to consider that women like Ymre Stiekema are the average when opening a magazine, while plus size women are not. People cheer when plus size women show up in Runner's magazine or Vogue, because it's not something we often see. We don't see a woman with a woman's body when opening fashion magazines, nor can we even tell what clothing looks like because it's draped on a size 00 frame. So yes, it's refreshing to see someone that is a size 12 showing off their curves in clothing - if gives women a better idea when looking at whatever is being advertised, and the confidence that they can pull off said look.
At the end of the day though, no matter your size, we gotta stop mommy shaming. So what if Ymre Stiekema is underweight? So what is so and so is over weight? Are their children cared for? Yes? Then shut up, and worry about you. Do what you want with your body, because others have the choice to look away. WE HAVE THE CHOICE TO LOOK AWAY!