I'm slowly turning into Bridethulhu as time goes on, because like I've mentioned before... I keep getting ridiculous requests or I'm told basically that my ideas are great, but they completely infringe on whatever said person is doing or is able to do. I stopped asking for help, but a few kind people have selflessly offered to give us a hand. I do mean selflessly - these are people who were invited, but aren't in the wedding party and are not family expecting anything in return. I gotta figure out a way to repay these people!
The past few days have brought a number of small requests and changes that I've not handled too well, and more than one rant has come from those feelings of being overwhelmed. I haven't taken care of myself, so how am I supposed to take care of the needs of others. I've gone out of my way to help people, and now I'm missing a few key things I need for the wedding as a bride. Okay, no KEY things, but things that matter to me. I haven't even thought about getting something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue. Well...I'm Blue. Does that count?
I finally announced that there will be no more changes - none!! It's the week of the wedding, and if you have a problem.. yo, I will NOT solve it, kick up the beat, or revolve it. I have entirely too much to do and too many people to deal with that are helping out to deal with people and their problems or the fact that one or all of my plans have inconvenienced them. Most of the people who are "inconvenienced" by any of my plans or ideas are people who put their self in that situation, not people who were asked to do anything.
My mom and I went to Costco for wedding planning reasons yesterday as well... We removed the pasta salad (ain't nobody got time for dat!) and she wanted to remove the cocktail sausages, but I'm going to keep searching for a sale... I just need like 400 of them LoL!!
So... finger sandwiches, chips, pickles, cocktail wienies, cheese plate, veggies, dip, fruit, lemonade, tea, wine, beer, and terrible dancing. Sounds fine.
I have this fear that we're going to run out! We invited 150, and got 79 RSVPs back. We're catering for 100. We have cake for 120, and the sandwiches serve 96-120. I think we're good. I know some people who are definitely not coming and some who are definitely coming that did not send an RSVP back. I just want to make sure we don't run out of anything.
I fully hope and expect to run out of wine and beer.
I need to learn to trust people...that's my issue. I feel like I need to have a hand in everything, and I have so far. That day though, I need to let go. I need to let others do things for me, and I need to enjoy the evening. After all, I'm marrying this amazing man Friday and we're leaving on a cruise to a beautiful place afterwards - how awesome is that!?